As mother,
sometimes it is soo frustrating!! People want to butt in and give opinions
about this or that when they just have no clue! You know those people I am
talking about. Friendly advice is one thing, don’t get me wrong. I am all for
hearing what has worked for others. You just never know after all, it could
work for that cough or cold.
What I am
talking about is things such as immunizations (yes, I immunize my kids), or
ADHD and medication. I remember clearly the day my eldest was diagnosed with
ADD. I was dead set against medicating my child. Why? Simple. I had heard so
many, mainly women, talk bad about. And of course, all the suggestions
followed. Don’t feed him this, avoid that, don’t give him red stuff. I got all
into. Never once did I stop and research for myself or even come up with my own
thoughts. Even asking a simple question, these ladies were quick to jump and
make me feel awful for even considering the thought of placing my child on any
kinds of medications for this disorder.
After a year
of ups and downs, and the poor teacher trying desperately to try alternatives,
I sought my doctor’s advice, again. She gave it to me straight. Just try the
meds. See how they are. She went over my concerns and helped me research the
info. I was amazed at what I found. I of course, hid the fact that I gave in
(how I felt) to medicating my son. After about a month, I could not believe the
difference. His grades shot up! The teacher was ever so grateful as well.
My lesson
was learned! When my second son was diagnosed with ADHD, I did not hesitate to
first, ensure this was the proper diagnoses, second, medicate him. I did my homework
this time. I also learned, opinions are not needed and I am my child’s parent,
no one else. That info those parents gave me, weren’t even correct. They had no
merit, no clue, and they aren’t educated, experts in that field. There was
nothing wrong with getting help for my child when he really and truly needed
it. I wasn’t simply handing my child a pill cause I couldn’t handle him, I was
giving him a chance to be able to focus his brain and focus his body.
Sometimes,
we need to say, YOU’RE OPINION IS NOT NEEDED! Never let anyone make you feel
bad for doing what you feel is best for your child or family. Only you know
what is best. Others are only looking in from the outside. And yes, this even
goes for family!
Until next
time…. Have a great day!